Drawing Energetic Boundaries (Part 1)
First, recognize that you are psychic. You wouldn’t have come across this page if you weren’t.
I’m not going to spend much time trying to convince you of that—awakening to your psychic abilities happens in layers. You might resist the label right now, and that’s okay. You know yourself better than anyone. If it helps you connect more deeply with this post, feel free to swap in a word that resonates.
Other terms might include: highly sensitive person, clairvoyant, clairsentient, empath, or seeker. For this series, I’ll keep using “psychic”—both as a personal affirmation and a nudge to your higher self.
Much of the psychic path involves being unaware of just how powerful you are. It takes overcoming certain challenges in life to truly come into that awareness.
On some level, you already know your energy is different—and that people seek it. But it takes time and experience to fully step into the magnitude of that truth.
Chances are, your interactions with others have often felt... off.
If you’re naturally giving, it can be confusing when people take without giving back. Your intentions are pure, so when the response doesn’t match, it creates misalignment. This can show up as possessiveness, cruelty, hidden motives—behavior that simply doesn’t reflect what you’re offering.
These dynamics can arise with friends, family, lovers, coworkers—even strangers on the street.
Carrying light is sacred, but it comes with shadow. Light reveals darkness. You reflect back what others may not want to see. In the early stages of this journey, that reflection can bring pain, confusion, and frustration. But as you grow into your power, you learn to trust your intuition, protect your energy, and be discerning.
You’ll also begin to see just how much of your life force you’ve given away. Freely.
I hope this stirs something within you, as it has in me. Setting energetic boundaries is also about recognizing the flow of energy, money, and time. It's about valuing yourself, and making sure you’re surrounded by those who truly support what you’re here to do.
I will share more about my own personal journey with drawing boundaries—because (surprise!) it didn’t come naturally to me. But, because I’ve lived the experience of having to create them from the ground up, I’m able to freely share with others what has worked for me as well as my own pain points on this journey.
I’ll talk more about how we can value ourselves as psychics, and how that changes the dynamics that we attract…
Really valuing oneself changes everything, in fact. It is at the core of each aspect of our lives: finances, work, passions/hobbies, relationships and friendships, communication.
As you begin that process, it may feel more natural to identify yourself as psychic. The pieces might just start to come together, but don’t rush it. Things are revealed to us exactly when they are meant to be.
My Story: A Wake Up Call
On my own journey, the turning point happened at the start of the pandemic when I was living abroad in Thailand. In the weeks leading up to quarantine, I was beginning the most intense spiritual awakening I had ever experienced. It wasn’t one thing that sparked this awakening, but a series of events and circumstances that guided me there.
In March of 2020, when COVID was just beginning to buzz in our ears, I was deeply immersed in a meditation practice. Any chance I had, I would sit in complete silence and breathe, focusing on my third eye. Sometimes for hours. I stopped being social as much, because I was so addicted to my own peace and solitude.
Then, the lockdown occurred. As the world was freaking out and all of my expat friends were scurrying to book a flight back to their home countries, I was in a state of pure and utter bliss. Never in my life had I had the spaciousness to be with myself like that. I had no other commitments, the school I taught at had shut down, and it was the most free I have ever felt.
For weeks, I spent all my time alone. Cultivating beautiful energy and using that to fuel me in creating more. I felt present in every single moment. I even had the feeling that my time in my physical body was coming to an end. I very much had the sense of, “this must be how you feel before you die,” and I was making peace with it.
In the midst of this, there inevitably came a day where I had to do something practical: go to the Visa center. I had made a plan to go with my co-teacher, another American girl who we will call Amanda. I met up with Amanda on a lovely day at an outdoor cafe, excited to finally be able to share some of this magic I had been stewing in for weeks.
The thing about Amanda though, which I knew on some level but maybe not consciously, is that she was a taker. I don’t mean this to have a negative connotation, but it’s something that I’ve learned to become aware of.
On this journey, our energy is our highest currency. Because I had spent my whole life up until this point simply giving my energy away to people, I didn’t realize how depleting that had been for me for so long. I also didn’t realize how little I often got in return–which led to many disempowering situations.
After an hour with my co-teacher, I went home feeling hollow. I laid in bed for a day. I was depressed, sluggish. I deeply wanted all of my energy again, but I didn’t know how to call it back.
I shared this experience with my close psychic friend, and she instantly recognized my lack of energetic boundaries. She suggested that I enroll in Clairvoyant Meditation 101, a course that would start me down the path of uncovering my psychic abilities.
When I first started this course, the tools we learned now seem basic to me, but they were monumental at the time.
Learning how to ground my energy, get other people out of my aura and third eye space, and create separation between me and others were not things that I had ever consciously done.
I felt a sense of anger at how much I had allowed others to affect my space, and I started to withdraw from people even more. I felt that being around others was too draining, and I wanted to be alone with my light as much as I could.
Of course, this is not a sustainable practice, unless I had chosen the path of becoming a monk somewhere. But I don’t feel that’s my calling here on planet earth, so instead I learned (very gradually) how to soften my boundaries. This was a very long, and still ongoing, process, which I will save for another post.
Choosing This Path
Rather, the path chose you.
Experiencing the world as a psychic is a beautiful thing. You perceive your surroundings on a level some people will never have the chance to. You see through others and the world with an accuracy which can be deeply revealing, particularly to those who have built their lives from illusion and fear.
The most important thing you can do early on is to learn how to protect yourself.
Once you recognize the ways you’ve been vulnerable to attacks from dark and parasitic energies, you may respond in anger and fear. You may start to set boundaries from this place and, hey…at least you are setting boundaries. Trust that your approach can soften once you begin to understand the energetics of these situations on a deeper level.
In the next part, I will dive deeper into our conditioning.
A major indicator that you are on the psychic path is that you' grew up feeling very alienated and different. Surprise! People don’t know what the hell to do with us. This is alarming as a child when it is adults who isolate and punish us simply for the light beings we are.
It takes an immense amount of unlearning to address this and to really understand why we’ve developed the people-pleasing habits we have over time. But it’s the knowledge of this process that can make us feel less alone, and will amplify our impact when we really commit to sharing our gifts.
